When I was eighteen years old, I met a boy who didn’t belong to me. I was drawn to him, a magnetic pull I could not ignore. Whether he felt the same pull, I don’t even know anymore. His arms were covered in scars, like mine, and in a rush of drunken courage, I passed him notes at a party until he was well within my grasp.
My memory holds nothing but a skip to the next scene, and we are hidden away, naked in a darkened room. I have no regrets, and no guilt. Not a speck of it, even when the door is opened and I hear the noises coming from her throat, half wail, half sob. It is animal like, and full of sorrow and despair and I Just. Don’t. Care. I don’t even care that she is one of my dearest friends, someone who was once a lover. All I know is that he is mine now. He is mine and I will keep him forever.
There is commotion, a rush of confusion, and she is hurting me, and I am chasing her up the stairs, grabbing for her. There are angry voices coming from the people I have been friends with for years. They bare their teeth, protective of her now. Sides have been drawn. “Never show your face in this neighborhood again,” we are told.
And then there is another skip, and I am driving, while he is giving me directions from the passenger seat. My vision is blurred and I am closing one eye as we pass through a tunnel. I am amazed that we make it to our destination in one piece. There is a small house, and we are crawling in a bedroom window. We sleep on the top bunk, wrapped up in each other, exhausted.
Weeks pass, but these memories are sparse and dreamlike. He disappears frequently, tries to kill himself. I chase him through the woods, catch him, try to save him, as we dangle our legs over the river below and he tells me of his pain. He is always just beyond my reach, in a world I have only had glimpses of.
We tangle ourselves up in the bathtub together, scars to scars. I know, even then, that I cannot save him. I cannot even manage to save myself. I know all of it, just as I know that he is broken beyond repair.
We always fuck like it’s the last time, desperate and needy. We drive to a run-down motel and drink two bottles of cough syrup. In the parking lot, I reach my arms into the sky and say “Do you feel it? Do you feel the entire universe right now?”
We try to act normal but neither of us knows how to anymore. I never go back to the old neighborhood. I have no real home. He is my home, and he is unstable and breakable and can only sometimes be taped together by love or drugs.
I’m moving from one moment to the next, directionless. Something is late, but I don’t notice it at first. It gnaws at me, my body tugging at my mind like a word on the tip of your tongue that you can’t seem to recall. And then the thought forms, appears hazy at first, until I am sitting in a tiny bathroom staring down two pink lines on a store bought test kit.
The entire world becomes a speeding train that has come to a noisy, screeching halt.
I tell him immediately and there are lots of words, rushing towards me. “It’s okay. It’s going to be fine. Don’t worry. It’s totally fine.”
We are cleaning ourselves up and making our way to the old neighborhood, to sit in the living room of my childhood home and tell my parents something they will cry about. I still refuse to come home.
I am sick in the mornings, in a way that I have never felt before, and it is miserable. I poke him and complain and ask for help, and he drags a bottle of whiskey from underneath the bed and hands it to me.
It is with this single action that clarity appears. My vision becomes clearer each day until the edges are sharp and crisp. My mind is full of a thousand thoughts. I have to. I need to. We have to. We need to.
I am panicked, all the time, while he remains ambivalent and unchanged. My surroundings have become increasingly dirty and they become unsuitable and impossible. I am sick inside and outside and I want my mother and these things annoy him, make him angry.
I cannot keep him, and this revelation comes to me with such startling brilliance, it is painful and freeing all at the same time. I stand up. I walk out. I drive away, back to the neighborhood, back to comfort, back to the nurturing arms of sanity and back to the kind of love that doesn’t hurt and doesn’t drive you mad.
I grow a piece of him inside of my body, the only thing I have left to keep. There is an invisible link that can never be broken, even though I won’t go back to him, will never love him, and will never see him in the same old way ever again.
I claw my way to the surface, kicking myself free of him. I leave him drowning on the floor of the ocean, alone. I save myself, and I save our child, because we are the only two in this triad that I can rescue.
And when I see our child’s face for the very first time, his eyes are big and blue just like his father’s, but they are full of life and they speak of adventure and hope. It is then, that I know I have finally found my home. And I have no regrets, and I have no guilt.
Not a speck of it.